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#Family unconditional love free#

#Family unconditional love free#

This is unlikely to work! And the exact opposite can happen instead! The solution for my family was for me to reclaim my inherent worth to free my children of having to provide my worth for me. Subconsciously I gave the message “I’m not sure of my own worth, so I need you to provide it for me by making me look good”.

I need you to establish my worth - This happened in our household and is common to many.

Of course, it is ridiculous to think that this kind of bargain is arranged, agreed upon or spoken in any way, but many of our relationships rest on hidden agendas or subconscious agreements – bargains that we may not even be aware of. “I’ll feed you and drive you to school if you clean your room, give me a hug at night and tell me you love me and don’t bring home any D’s”. What passes for love in many families is really bargaining.

It is automatic when a person is operating from a loving place rather than a fearful one.

it can be experienced when someone who knows their Inherent Worth can see the Inherent Worth of another.it is the love that surrounds and flows through us at all times though we may not be aware of it.Love that is given in such a way that it can be received.There is no expectation of any achievement or standard of behavior.There is no expectation of being loved in return.Love that is given freely with no strings attached – just because.Your own happiness will increase as a result of removing your barriers to love.

You’ll have a better chance of avoiding the emotional and financial cost of having a teenager with problems.Your child’s mental health and happiness.In his book “Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness” Edward Hallowell states that “The unconditional love of one adult in a child’s life is the best inoculation against emotional distress There are, therefore, some important things at stake if we can learn to love unconditionally: